Tuesday, 11 December 2018

Alhzeimer's Disease


My husband has always had a poor memory, but over the last four years, I had noticed him getting increasingly forgetful. Gradually his forgetfulness built up, and I began to suspect something was wrong. He would forget the change at the till when out shopping or if he used the card he would forget that. Fortunately, the shops would keep the card as they know him — all very worrying. His forgetfulness was not a daily occurrence by any means. It would happen monthly or weekly. Sometimes though even on a daily basis. There are no set times for Alzheimer’s to kick in.
At times I would mention certain things and then he would either repeat them word for word later on or seemingly forget I had ever told him. I put a lot of happenings down to the fact that he is deaf. But in the end, I could not go on ignoring them. I thought that if he were in the early stages of Alzheimer's Disease, then they would give him medication that holds it back. It was difficult to broach the subject with him, but he agreed. The Health Centre arranged for one of the health visitors to come to see him. No doctors or nurses have helped with his care up until now, the person who came to see him brought a prescription that had been written out by someone in their department. These tablets are supposed to help slow down the progress of the disease. My husband has been taking them for a few months now, and there has been no change as such. Some days are excellent for us others he does get very forgetful. We only make local journeys now, and no doubt these will stop in time to come.
I would say that he is past the early stage and entering the moderate stage. There is no holding back of this frightful disease. All you can do is be supportive and of course be there for them. We still lead a pretty normal life and anyone meeting him would not suspect anything was wrong, unless he says something strange, as he does from time to time. He still does the shopping every day, and we walk the dog.
Do I feel alone? Yes. No one from the Health Centre has ever asked me how he is or how I am coping. In fact no one has, apart from one friend! I guess I go back in my mind to the old days when doctors and their staff (even the receptionists) would give you the time of day. Not like today’s timed appointments when you go in and can hardly draw breath before you find yourself out in the corridor again! Of course, this happens because our Health Centres have far too many patients and not enough doctors.
Going back to feeling alone, I do feel very lonely at times. Because at one time I had quite a few friends who would visit or telephone me. Apart from one who rings me now and again, the others disappeared when they heard of my husband's illness. Obviously they were not friends. 
But we cope and we can still laugh and joke and enjoy our time together.

Friday, 7 December 2018

Believe in Yourself - self help

Believe in Yourself

Available from Amazon
Link below

From start to finish I found this book a powerful and insightful read. Janice bravely shares the struggles she has suffered over the years helping readers realise that they are not alone with their problems.
Janice shows how she overcame her problems but honestly points out that it can at times be really hard work.
By sharing her knowledge and showing her readers how to leave the past behind people are able to regain hope that has been sadly missing from their lives for far too long.

About the Author
Having made the decision to make a complete career change, Janice, studied for an Open University honours degree in Psychology whilst looking after her family, a home and working full time. In addition she also gained professional qualifications in hypnotherapy and psychotherapy, later adding counselling and life coaching. Having herself suffered the loss of close family she became a volunteer bereavement counsellor to help others to cope with, and share their grief. Having made life changing decisions herself, she has enjoyed helping others to improve their lives. She knows that to make any change is a hard decision and even more difficult to put it into action. It is so easy to put things off. However, the benefits of making these changes far outweigh the effort. Her work is fascinating, fulfilling and rewarding and in the process she has met some amazing and wonderful people.

Wednesday, 17 October 2018

A brief Ghostly Happening (but there’s a message in it!)

A brief Ghostly Happening (but there’s a message in it!)

Many years ago I was chatting to a nurse (no longer works there) at a local Doctor’s surgery. She must have seen in the papers that I collected ghost stories. Out of the blue, she told me the following story that happened to her.
She said one day she was walking through town when she happened to glance up a side street. To her utter amazement, she saw all her relatives that had died. Then they disappeared. She was shocked but said that seeing them gave her comfort.
I mentioned this to a friend, and he said he was surprised that she hadn’t been scared.
I said, ‘why should she be frightened? Maybe they returned to show that they were all together, proving that there is life after death.’

Friday, 12 October 2018

Favourite read of the year - so far

Favourite Read 
My favourite read so far this year is The Elephant Whisperer 
It is a book that I will never forget. The couple's devotion to the elephants was inspiring to read. It is a book that once read you will never forget.
My top read.

Monday, 8 October 2018

How Writing Magazine inspired me.

Thank you Writing Magazine

2018 has not treated me kindly, and despite trying hard, I have found concentrating on writing difficult to say the least. I know many writers go through periods of feeling less than inspired. I have also experienced this but never for so long. The harder I tried to be inspired and write the worse it became! Finally, I gave up trying.
It was not that I felt sorry for myself. Far from it, inwardly I longed to write, but I had reached the stage of thinking why bother even to start? I feared I would trigger another illness or family crisis. I so missed my daily writing sessions, where I could sit and disappear into another world this should have inspired me. After all, writing has been my daily occupation for many years. I have written fifteen books and articles on many subjects.
I would eagerly read Writing Magazine every month and enjoy it, but nothing had me rushing to my PC. That is until I received my copy of the October edition of the magazine. I saw that there was a small booklet issued free in this edition. 'Inspiration and motivation for Writers' by Chloe Henderson; I admit I looked at it a little cynically. I knew that nothing could help me start writing again. I flicked through the book and lo and behold I found myself reading and agreeing with the quotes and tips within its pages. The more I read, the more I felt that I should write not tomorrow or next week as I had kept promising myself but NOW. So I did, a storyline jumped into my head, followed by characters eager to tell me their story. 
Thank you so much to Writing Magazine for including the book and helping me to get through this tough time. Also, many thanks to Chloe for writing her brilliant book. Below is the link for Chloe's book.