Sunday, 8 July 2018
I think there will be many people
who will be able to identify with this blog post about ‘friends’ who use you. I
use the word ‘friends’ loosely as after all they’re not and never have or will
be a friend.
In my opinion, a friend is someone who is always there ready to have a
chat and a laugh and a joke with you and vice versa. In short, they are always, always there for you through the good and
I had a best friend who sadly
died a few years ago. She was a truly wonderful person who I met when I was
about seven years old. We remained friends until she suddenly passed away.
Never a day goes by without my thinking of her. I will always miss her. She was
such a special person.
I'll start with the negative side of friendship first and get it out of the way!
I’ve noticed people who have
called me a friend disappear into the
ether in recent times when I have had troubles. At first, I felt hurt (by two in particular), but then I realised that they
are so self-centered they are more to be
pitied than anything. At the end of the day,
they are not important in my life.
Of course, being used is horrible - the two people I mentioned above have moved on to befriend other
people and use them in the same way. These people are takers who wheedle the information
they want from new ‘friends’ and then when they have taken all they can get,
the friendly emails, cards, facebook and twitter chat dry up. Fine, these
people will always eventually show their true colours.
at first when this happened to me not just online but out in the real world I
was shocked, but I quickly told myself that it is they that have the problem, not me. In the great scheme of things, they are irrelevant. Life
holds far more interesting people than the likes of them.
Have I deleted them from my
social media accounts? No, but eventually I will.
But that is the negative side of
friendship. True friends are wonderful and enrich our lives.
Where would we be without them? A friend is someone who will be there for you
A friend will do the unexpected
and suddenly turn up with a meal for you or even tickets for a night out.
Or just bring a drink when they drop by for a lovely chat.
A best friend has the all-important listening ear when you’re feeling
a little down and out.
best friend is so important in our lives. As mentioned earlier my best
friend died quite a while ago. I remember her wise words, her friendship, her
sense of humour, knowing that she was
always there for me and vice versa, of course, she was wonderful. Hazel Stokes nee
Robinson I will always miss our friendship, the good times and the fun we
shared for nearly fifty years. xxx
Tuesday, 15 May 2018
If anyone wants to buy an embroidery please email me for details on firstname.lastname@example.org
I was inspired by the sky to paint and embroider the first embroidery above.
The 2nd embroidery is a mix of acrylic paints, gold paint. I cut out small circles of material and made the added flowers.
The third epainting and embroidery I based on one I saw in a book, Layer, paint and stitch. I was quite pleased with the effect I achieved.
I take photographs and videos and use them to inspire me for my embroidery and painting.
Here's a video I took recently https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MisS0HrqRfY
It will be a reminder later in the year of the morning light and bluebells when I sit down to start a painting. Below are a few inspirational photographs.
Here's another inspirational photograph to keep me going.
Thursday, 3 May 2018
Since I was very young I have been interested in the Supernatural. From ghosts, clairvoyants, mediums, tarot cards, spiritualist churches you name it I've been involved in the subject at some point, apart from witchcraft. I have never found myself drawn towards it. I know that people who become witches are a force for good and work for charities and communities but it's not something I am drawn towards.
The subject of ghosts always fascinates me, 'are there really ghosts?' I am often asked, or, 'do you believe in ghosts?'
Aa far as the first question goes my usual reply is, like millions of other people around the world I do not know. This is partly why the subject is so fascinating. To my knowledge no one has ever actually proved that there really are ghosts or spirits.
OTOH, many thousands of people claim to have seen a ghost(s)
I happened to read an interesting story not so long ago about how a woman discovered that she had actually spoken to someone only to discover a short while later that the person she had been speaking to had died years ago. It was fascinating.
In fact I have frequently read similar stories like the above where someone has told a friend or relative a similar happening. I find it all so intriguing.
This turned my thoughts once again to ghostly happenings and things to do with the supernatural. I am constantly questioning whether ghost stories are true or not. I do believe that the majority of people who claim to have seen a ghost definitely have seen something. But is it a ghost? Or is something else happening that gives an impression that they have seen a ghostly apparition?
Not for one minute do I doubt their integrity. I mean many people are too embarrassed to admit to having seen a ghost. They do not want to be derided or called an idiot or be told they've been watching to many programmes, such as, Most Haunted or the like.
Below is a page from a book about ghostly sightings that I have written.
For many years I visited mediums and clairvoyants. You may ask why I did this? To put it in a nutshell, I was interested, and I wanted to find out if mediums really could speak to the spirit world and I visited clairvoyants because I wanted to know my future. Did it become a bit of an obsession? I think it did!
From an early age, I was interested in ghosts and other worldly things and would go out of my way to watch or listen to any programme on the television or radio devoted to this fascinating subject. I adored reading ghost stories, any book or magazine that published a story about the world of the supernatural would soon be in my eager hands. As a youngster, I became addicted to the subject.
Other young people of my time would be addicted to different television programmes, a pop singer, or dance, or the latest fashion or hairstyle. Not me, ok, so I knew what was happening in the world, but my obsession did not allow me to pursue different avenues. I focused my world on the supernatural.
In fact, I saw my first ‘ghost’ when I was about 7 years of age. I was walking back to school after lunch, head down looking at the floor when, for some reason or other, I glanced up. Not far ahead of me, I saw a young girl around my own age walking in the same direction. She was dressed in a similar dress to the one I was wearing. I wondered who she was.
The street was deserted apart from the two of us. I tried walking faster to catch her up, but the distance between us remained the same. Try as I might, I couldn’t shorten the distance. It was strange to say the least.
I watched her intently, determined I was going to catch her up. I started to run and she promptly disappeared in front of my eyes.
I rubbed my eyes not believing that someone could disappear like that - but she had. I knew I had seen a ghost; there was no other explanation. This incident did not frighten me at all. Despite being young, or perhaps because of it, I accepted that ghosts existed. My family would have scoffed at me if I had told them, particularly my three brothers. So I kept the ‘girl ghost sighting’ to myself. I never found out who she was, but I have never forgotten her.
Over the years, my interest in ghosts deepened. I read everything I could on the subject. At times, I must admit I questioned whether I had actually seen a ghost and wondered if it had been my childish imagination. Who knows? But it began a life-long interest that has never diminished.
When I started work, and later met my husband to be, I did not forget about my interest, but obviously, my focus shifted dramatically! A few years later -I was married and had children by this time- I heard talk about something called a Ouija Board. Apparently, this board enabled people to contact the Spirit World. Of course, I just had to have one.
The day I bought the board I organised a get together with a few friends so that we could try it out. The board is self-explanatory. Instructions and a planchette are provided. Two people place a finger on the planchette, ask the question, ‘is anyone there,’ and if there is the planchette will move swiftly across the board to the word yes.
We did not receive a response at first, but after a while, the planchette glided effortlessly to yes, no or to spell out messages from the alphabet. It even gave dates.
At first, it was simply good fun. The trouble was its thoughts, or maybe someone in the room began thinking somber thoughts, whatever, the board began leaving death messages. Time to pack it away or throw it away.
The messages it originally gave were written down, and many of them were predictions that came true during the following few years.
After the episode with the Ouija Board, I wondered if there was another way of contacting the spirit world. Indeed there was! I found out that by writing the letters of the alphabet down on paper and placing them in a semicircle, also adding yes and no, a glass or any object that will slide over the surface where the semicircle is answers to questions can be received.
I tried this method, sometimes I must say that although it did seem as if the glass was guided by some other force the messages received were never as dramatic as we received via the Ouija Board. It was very interesting though. Perhaps I should have pursued it more.
A word of warning. At the time that Ouija Boards were popular, there was a lot of controversy surrounding them. They were said to be dangerous, in particular to the children. Despite being marketed as a game. Personally, I do not think youngsters should use them.
More to follow on this fascinating subject in days to come.