I think there will be many people
who will be able to identify with this blog post about ‘friends’ who use you. I
use the word ‘friends’ loosely as after all they’re not and never have or will
be a friend.
In my opinion, a friend is someone who is always there ready to have a
chat and a laugh and a joke with you and vice versa. In short, they are always, always there for you through the good and
I had a best friend who sadly
died a few years ago. She was a truly wonderful person who I met when I was
about seven years old. We remained friends until she suddenly passed away.
Never a day goes by without my thinking of her. I will always miss her. She was
such a special person.
I'll start with the negative side of friendship first and get it out of the way!
I’ve noticed people who have
called me a friend disappear into the
ether in recent times when I have had troubles. At first, I felt hurt (by two in particular), but then I realised that they
are so self-centered they are more to be
pitied than anything. At the end of the day,
they are not important in my life.
Of course, being used is horrible - the two people I mentioned above have moved on to befriend other
people and use them in the same way. These people are takers who wheedle the information
they want from new ‘friends’ and then when they have taken all they can get,
the friendly emails, cards, facebook and twitter chat dry up. Fine, these
people will always eventually show their true colours.
at first when this happened to me not just online but out in the real world I
was shocked, but I quickly told myself that it is they that have the problem, not me. In the great scheme of things, they are irrelevant. Life
holds far more interesting people than the likes of them.
Have I deleted them from my
social media accounts? No, but eventually I will.
But that is the negative side of
friendship. True friends are wonderful and enrich our lives.
Where would we be without them? A friend is someone who will be there for you
A friend will do the unexpected
and suddenly turn up with a meal for you or even tickets for a night out.
Or just bring a drink when they drop by for a lovely chat.
A best friend has the all-important listening ear when you’re feeling
a little down and out.
best friend is so important in our lives. As mentioned earlier my best
friend died quite a while ago. I remember her wise words, her friendship, her
sense of humour, knowing that she was
always there for me and vice versa, of course, she was wonderful. Hazel Stokes nee
Robinson I will always miss our friendship, the good times and the fun we
shared for nearly fifty years. xxx